Muškarac pod pritiskom (Battle Time)

[Dragan]

XXX faktor. 🙂

Edited May 9 by Dragan

[40Wins]

28 minutes ago, DameTime said:

 

Koju stvar? xD 

Draganche suptilno hoce da ukaze na faktor Michel vs Sheyo. 😄

[DameTime]

29 minutes ago, Dragan said:

XXX faktor. 🙂

 

2 minutes ago, 40Wins said:

Draganche suptilno hoce da ukaze na faktor Michel vs Sheyo. 😄

 

Pa i ja sam bila suptilna :)) 

[Marko]

Dobri ste

[fancy]

Pritisak je konstantan 😱

 

https://www.instagram.com/share/reel/_u-IUNnFb

 

 

[DameTime]

7 hours ago, fancy said:

Pritisak je konstantan 😱

 

https://www.instagram.com/share/reel/_u-IUNnFb

 

Jednu stvar bismo mogli da usvojimo od životinja - ljubomorna lavica je prišla lavu i na taj način naterala ovu drugu da se skloni. Žene se ohrabruju da se međusobno napadaju, a muškarac ništa 

[McLeod]

On 5/9/2025 at 3:40 PM, DameTime said:

 

LOL

 

 

Ovo je već druga priča 

 

Za mene je "idealan" muškarac onaj koji je: stabilan, zreo, samostalan (zna da skuva, opere veš, pegla, ne očekuje to od žene). Da nije preterano vezan za majku (u nezdravom, edipovskom smislu). Poštuje sve žene - ne samo mene. Ne samo da ima razumevanja, već i da podržava moje feminističke stavove. Da se ne oseća intimidated by me, što muškarci uglavnom jesu bili (iz dosadašnjeg iskustva), pa da mi samo klima glavom uz "da, draga" (izbegava konfrontacije), već da može da mi se suprotstavi stavom i mišljenjem. Mora da poštuje moju nezavisnost i slobodu. Samouveren, čak arogantan tip, neko ko će intelektualno biti na mom nivou ili čak iznad mene. Da me čelendžuje jer tako mogu da napredujem kao osoba. Da je emocionalno zreo i inteligentan, ume da čita neverbalnu komunikaciju. Zaštitnički nastrojen, ali da prepoznaje situacije koje mogu samostalno da rešim. Ne preterano ljubomoran i posesivan tip. Dalje, neke usputne stvari su i da je obrazovan, finansijski osamostaljen, duhovit, otvoren za nova iskustva, nije nužno da nam se preklapaju interesovanja...

 

I mora da ima to nešto što ću da osetim, X faktor, jebem li ga. Verovatno sam nešto izostavila, ovo je prvi put da pokušavam da to "stavim na papir". 

 

Ovo ti je sve lagano, osim peglanja. Milenijalski muskarci su ucinili veliku uslugu svetu i banishovali peglu, ne treba nam to.

[DameTime]

2 minutes ago, McLeod said:

Ovo ti je sve lagano, osim peglanja. Milenijalski muskarci su ucinili veliku uslugu svetu i banishovali peglu, ne treba nam to.

 

Šta bre lagano? 😂

 

Ma ok za peglu, nisam ni ja luda za tim da budem iskrena, nego ako to hoće - da ume sam da uradi 😁

[McLeod]

Pa lagano je, samo na forumu imas 20+ ovakvih, samo je pitanje tog x faktora i fizicke privlacnosti, nije da je ovo ostalo nesto tesko ispuniti.

 

[DameTime]

8 hours ago, McLeod said:

Pa lagano je, samo na forumu imas 20+ ovakvih, samo je pitanje tog x faktora i fizicke privlacnosti, nije da je ovo ostalo nesto tesko ispuniti.

 

Mislim da sam ipak ja ta koja određuje ko ispunjava moje kriterijume.

[BattleBender]

17 hours ago, McLeod said:

Pa lagano je, samo na forumu imas 20+ ovakvih, samo je pitanje tog x faktora i fizicke privlacnosti, nije da je ovo ostalo nesto tesko ispuniti.

 

A soliter?

[DameTime]

Da malo produbimo temu. Zanimljiv članak i meta studija:

Traditional masculinities and men’s sexism: A meta-analysis.

 

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To quantify this relationship, a meta-analysis was conducted using 107 independent samples (mainly from the United States) from 21,078 men, reported in 44 articles between 1984 and 2021. Although we observed that TM positively correlated with men’s sexism, there was wide variability in effect sizes. An examination of potential moderators revealed that the relationship was significantly different between different forms of TM. The relationship between sexism and conformity to masculine norms and traditional masculinity ideology was stronger than the relationship with gender role stress. Further, TM were more strongly related to forms of sexism that reflect overt negative attitudes toward women (old-fashioned and hostile sexisms) than to forms that reflect covert sexist attitudes (modern and benevolent sexism). Moreover, the link between TM and sexism was stronger in the general population than in student samples. However, these findings should be interpreted and taken with caution due to the presence of substantial heterogeneity in effect sizes. 

 

Lost opportunities: How gendered arrangements harm men

 

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Identifying with a man’s traditional role is a mixed privilege, as five gendered arrangements show for men who subscribe to them:

1. Masculine norms can restrict men’s choices and are associated with adverse health trajectories;

2. Some men’s disengagement from communal roles denies them positive outcomes associated with caring for others;

3. Hostile sexism fosters antipathy, fueling tension in some men’s interactions with women;

4. Benevolent sexism forces some men into scripted interactions, preventing genuine connections and burdening them with unrealistic breadwinner and protector roles; 5. Societal shifts in gender hierarchies can elicit threat responses in men, depending on intersections with social class and racial identities.

 

Jedan interesantan tekst:

Dude, the patriarchy messed up my life – and yours too

 

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I experienced its harm a few years after college, when I was walking home one night from a train station. It was late, and bars and restaurants were mostly closed. I wasn’t paying much attention to a small, aimless crowd drifting ahead of me until one young man peeled off and darted my way, screaming: “What did you say?” I hadn’t said anything for more than an hour, having been on the train, but he didn’t care. He punched and kicked me as his friends watched and I stood there, paralyzed, in shock.

 

I am privileged, as a straight white cisgender man, to have felt relatively safe walking home in the dark. But the experience drove home our warped conception of what it means to be a man. It felt like my assailant had something he needed to express, and fury was the obvious route. This is a particular problem among younger men, according to a recent study at Duke University that highlighted the links between social pressure, masculinity and aggression.

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I’m not saying that I wouldn’t have been beaten up that night if my assailant had been raised on Fantastic Flowers. But I had a sense, as his knee flew into my face, that his motive was as unclear to him as it was to me.

 

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Patriarchy is toxic to everyone. By the same token, feminism helps us all. As Robert Webb puts it in How Not to Be a Boy: “Masculinity adds up to little more than the pursuit of not being a woman.” If a fear of femininity is what makes men loath to show their feelings, then eliminating the social hierarchy should have a welcome side-effect: maybe men can finally be themselves.

 

I know I am far from the first man to call for a change in the kind of masculinity we value. But I believe that call needs to be made repeatedly and without shame if we want anything to change. Even as I write this, my man-alarm is going off: ABORT – FEELINGS DETECTED. Maybe someday I can take out the batteries.

 

[40Wins]

Nek ova tema bude o maskulinizmu, da ne razvodnjavamo ovo u feminizam 2.0.

[JPM]

1 hour ago, 40Wins said:

Nek ova tema bude o maskulinizmu, da ne razvodnjavamo ovo u feminizam 2.0.

 

Feminizam koji želi da uči. 

[Mina D. Harker]

"Under pressure" je malo on the nose, ali uživajte u mom izboru 2 različita viđenja dečaka kroz muziku 

 

 

 

[Dragan]

 

Nema vise pravih muskaraca. Ovo sve neki metro tipovi.

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lAcq2ruZc6g

 

[fancy]

3 hours ago, Mina D. Harker said:

"Under pressure" je malo on the nose, ali uživajte u mom izboru 2 različita viđenja dečaka kroz muziku 

 

 

 

 

Pratim sa... Songs to learn and dance:

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

[DameTime]

On 5/12/2025 at 12:51 PM, 40Wins said:

Nek ova tema bude o maskulinizmu, da ne razvodnjavamo ovo u feminizam 2.0.

I am trying bro, ali malo je zajebano, većina perspektiva o maksulinizmu uključuje i neku feminističku percepciju. Svakako bi bilo lepo da vi malo podelite svoj pogled na ovaj fenomen.

[Dragan]

 

Nije nama lako.

 

[DameTime]

Guys... It's possible

 

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DFtdvxSSSqR/

[Smrtokapa]

Zašto smo na ovom forumu:

 

https://www.facebook.com/jasondavidwongpargin/videos/1457179828642772

 

Edited 17 hours ago by Smrtokapa

[Smrtokapa]

Babe wake up, the new word just dropped (dokle više?)

 

https://www.forbes.com/sites/kimelsesser/2024/10/23/mankeeping--how-shrinking-male-social-networks-may-burden-women/

[RatzenStadt]

1 hour ago, Smrtokapa said:

Zašto smo na ovom forumu:

 

https://www.facebook.com/jasondavidwongpargin/videos/1457179828642772

 

 

...ne samo karijera i porodica, nego ni ime osobe sa kojom provodis vreme ne saznas mesecima, iako ste cesto zajedno.
te intimne informacije i nepotrebne stvari nisu neophodne da vam bude interesantno zajedno. Stavise, mogu da pokvare odnos.

u svojim 20-im, dok sam cesce isao na pecanje, desavalo se da se ushemim sa ljudima na koje naletim tamo. Podelimo kvalitetno potroseno vreme koje se meri u satima (no homo), na kraju ni ne saznam ime, samo se pozdravimo, misleci "hvala, do iduceg puta, ako li nas sudbina ponovo sastavi".

i svidja mi se prvi komentar sa linka. Kod porodicnog okupljanja, prvih sat vremena je rezervisano za raspravu u izboru i kvalitetu rute kojom se stiglo do odredista xD

 

29 minutes ago, Smrtokapa said:

Babe wake up, the new word just dropped (dokle više?)

 

https://www.forbes.com/sites/kimelsesser/2024/10/23/mankeeping--how-shrinking-male-social-networks-may-burden-women/

 

opet sav teret pao na nejaka zenska pleca 😞 

ja vise nemam suza za njih i zrtve koje polazu i podnose. Da su mi lacrimale izvoriste Amazona, ni to ne bi bilo dovoljno 😭

[DameTime]

2 hours ago, Smrtokapa said:

Babe wake up, the new word just dropped (dokle više?)

 

https://www.forbes.com/sites/kimelsesser/2024/10/23/mankeeping--how-shrinking-male-social-networks-may-burden-women/

 

Treba da budemo iznenađeni? 😁 

 

Jedino možda social networking, da su se tu obrnule uloge poslednjih godina. Što se tiče emocionalne podrške*, to je uvek i bilo na ženskim članovima porodice. Muškarci se usmeravaju da očekuju to od majke (eventualno sestre), a kasnije od svoje partnerke.

 

Slična je priča sa socijalnim veštinama, da ne kažem mekim veštinama, na koje se opet dečaci ne fokusiraju od početka sazrevanja. 

 

*Naravno da verujem kako treba da pružamo emocionalnu podršku partnerima, kao što je lepo da to pružimo bliskim osobama u životu generalno. Ali isto tako bi i partneri to trebalo da pružaju nama. Hoću da kažem da se ovde radi o slučajevima prevelike diskrepance između partnera, gde žena nosi značajno veći emocionalni teret.

[Smrtokapa]

Zanimljiva je to hrana za razmišljanje, samo me ne uzbuđuje preterano izmišljanje novog termina za postojeću stvar. Pomalo imamo inflaciju reči na man: manspreading, mansplaining, manwalking, manboozing, manterrupting, manflu (!?)...

 

Žene kukaju na muškarce, muškarci na žene, svi precenjuju svoj doprinos ništa novo... plus se na muškarce kuka i na kkcz temi prelazni rok, stvarno kakva su ovo očekivanja:

 

28 minutes ago, Čočo said:

Može li da se nađe jedan porodičan i zdrav čovek a da je mlad.