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29 minutes ago, Dragan said:

XXX faktor. 🙂

 

2 minutes ago, 40Wins said:

Draganche suptilno hoce da ukaze na faktor Michel vs Sheyo. 😄

 

Pa i ja sam bila suptilna :)) 

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On 5/9/2025 at 3:40 PM, DameTime said:

 

LOL

 

 

Ovo je već druga priča :classic_biggrin:

 

Za mene je "idealan" muškarac onaj koji je: stabilan, zreo, samostalan (zna da skuva, opere veš, pegla, ne očekuje to od žene). Da nije preterano vezan za majku (u nezdravom, edipovskom smislu). Poštuje sve žene - ne samo mene. Ne samo da ima razumevanja, već i da podržava moje feminističke stavove. Da se ne oseća intimidated by me, što muškarci uglavnom jesu bili (iz dosadašnjeg iskustva), pa da mi samo klima glavom uz "da, draga" (izbegava konfrontacije), već da može da mi se suprotstavi stavom i mišljenjem. Mora da poštuje moju nezavisnost i slobodu. Samouveren, čak arogantan tip, neko ko će intelektualno biti na mom nivou ili čak iznad mene. Da me čelendžuje jer tako mogu da napredujem kao osoba. Da je emocionalno zreo i inteligentan, ume da čita neverbalnu komunikaciju. Zaštitnički nastrojen, ali da prepoznaje situacije koje mogu samostalno da rešim. Ne preterano ljubomoran i posesivan tip. Dalje, neke usputne stvari su i da je obrazovan, finansijski osamostaljen, duhovit, otvoren za nova iskustva, nije nužno da nam se preklapaju interesovanja...

 

I mora da ima to nešto što ću da osetim, X faktor, jebem li ga. Verovatno sam nešto izostavila, ovo je prvi put da pokušavam da to "stavim na papir". :classic_biggrin:

 

Ovo ti je sve lagano, osim peglanja. Milenijalski muskarci su ucinili veliku uslugu svetu i banishovali peglu, ne treba nam to.

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2 minutes ago, McLeod said:

Ovo ti je sve lagano, osim peglanja. Milenijalski muskarci su ucinili veliku uslugu svetu i banishovali peglu, ne treba nam to.

 

Šta bre lagano? 😂

 

Ma ok za peglu, nisam ni ja luda za tim da budem iskrena, nego ako to hoće - da ume sam da uradi 😁

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8 hours ago, McLeod said:

Pa lagano je, samo na forumu imas 20+ ovakvih, samo je pitanje tog x faktora i fizicke privlacnosti, nije da je ovo ostalo nesto tesko ispuniti.

 

Mislim da sam ipak ja ta koja određuje ko ispunjava moje kriterijume.

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17 hours ago, McLeod said:

Pa lagano je, samo na forumu imas 20+ ovakvih, samo je pitanje tog x faktora i fizicke privlacnosti, nije da je ovo ostalo nesto tesko ispuniti.

 

A soliter?

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Da malo produbimo temu. Zanimljiv članak i meta studija:


Traditional masculinities and men’s sexism: A meta-analysis.

 

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To quantify this relationship, a meta-analysis was conducted using 107 independent samples (mainly from the United States) from 21,078 men, reported in 44 articles between 1984 and 2021. Although we observed that TM positively correlated with men’s sexism, there was wide variability in effect sizes. An examination of potential moderators revealed that the relationship was significantly different between different forms of TM. The relationship between sexism and conformity to masculine norms and traditional masculinity ideology was stronger than the relationship with gender role stress. Further, TM were more strongly related to forms of sexism that reflect overt negative attitudes toward women (old-fashioned and hostile sexisms) than to forms that reflect covert sexist attitudes (modern and benevolent sexism). Moreover, the link between TM and sexism was stronger in the general population than in student samples. However, these findings should be interpreted and taken with caution due to the presence of substantial heterogeneity in effect sizes. 

 

Lost opportunities: How gendered arrangements harm men

 

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Identifying with a man’s traditional role is a mixed privilege, as five gendered arrangements show for men who subscribe to them:

1. Masculine norms can restrict men’s choices and are associated with adverse health trajectories;

2. Some men’s disengagement from communal roles denies them positive outcomes associated with caring for others;

3. Hostile sexism fosters antipathy, fueling tension in some men’s interactions with women;

4. Benevolent sexism forces some men into scripted interactions, preventing genuine connections and burdening them with unrealistic breadwinner and protector roles; 5. Societal shifts in gender hierarchies can elicit threat responses in men, depending on intersections with social class and racial identities.

 

Jedan interesantan tekst:

Dude, the patriarchy messed up my life – and yours too

 

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I experienced its harm a few years after college, when I was walking home one night from a train station. It was late, and bars and restaurants were mostly closed. I wasn’t paying much attention to a small, aimless crowd drifting ahead of me until one young man peeled off and darted my way, screaming: “What did you say?” I hadn’t said anything for more than an hour, having been on the train, but he didn’t care. He punched and kicked me as his friends watched and I stood there, paralyzed, in shock.

 

I am privileged, as a straight white cisgender man, to have felt relatively safe walking home in the dark. But the experience drove home our warped conception of what it means to be a man. It felt like my assailant had something he needed to express, and fury was the obvious route. This is a particular problem among younger men, according to a recent study at Duke University that highlighted the links between social pressure, masculinity and aggression.

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I’m not saying that I wouldn’t have been beaten up that night if my assailant had been raised on Fantastic Flowers. But I had a sense, as his knee flew into my face, that his motive was as unclear to him as it was to me.

 

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Patriarchy is toxic to everyone. By the same token, feminism helps us all. As Robert Webb puts it in How Not to Be a Boy: “Masculinity adds up to little more than the pursuit of not being a woman.” If a fear of femininity is what makes men loath to show their feelings, then eliminating the social hierarchy should have a welcome side-effect: maybe men can finally be themselves.

 

I know I am far from the first man to call for a change in the kind of masculinity we value. But I believe that call needs to be made repeatedly and without shame if we want anything to change. Even as I write this, my man-alarm is going off: ABORT – FEELINGS DETECTED. Maybe someday I can take out the batteries.

 

Posted
1 hour ago, 40Wins said:

Nek ova tema bude o maskulinizmu, da ne razvodnjavamo ovo u feminizam 2.0.

 

Feminizam koji želi da uči. :default_coffee:

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